You absolutely must have a doula!!! Mary Susan was absolutely phenomenal. She was such a delight and extreme comfort to have in the room with me. She, unlike nurses or midwives, had absolutely no other agenda but to focus on me and make sure I was mentally, emotionally and physically doing well. Birth is a mental game. A beautiful birth requires a gifted coach in the corner and though my husband is obviously super cute, he doesn’t quite know the mental battle & unbelievable pain of birth & couldn’t be all the support I needed.
Being alone & left in unbelievable pain was my greatest fear. That was my prior experience which left me horrified. She made me feel soooo brave and calm and I was never, ever alone. I felt such joy compared to my last experience which left me full of anger & fear. And she had an extra nose ring which saved the day!